Five Tips for Better Sex | Sexual Desire Explained

In my last post, I spoke about what does it mean to be sexy. Let’s dive deeper into how sexual desire differs between men and women and how to enhance sexual desire. What is sexual desire? You need to understand that female sexual desire is more complicated than male desire. Thinking of the female brain as a sexual organ, the brain is the center of a woman’s emotions and thoughts. A woman’s brain is the operating center for a complex network of neurotransmitters and neuroendocrine systems. In turn, a woman’s hormones are responsible for her sexual desire and response. The brain sends signals of desire that start a cascade of reactions leading to genital arousal, also called a woman’s libido or her sex drive. When a woman is young and has raging hormones, she doesn’t have to think much about sex. With age and loss of hormones a woman’s libido changes as does her desire for sex. Gender Differences  For men, sexual desire or libido is enhanced by visual stimuli and the pursuit of a sexual encounter. Testosterone levels in men are correlated with their libido. As men age, testosterone lowers at a slower rate than women. A slow change in testosterone means most men will have sexual desire for longer than do women facing menopause and women experiencing a bigger dip in their hormones.

When it comes to women and sex, how a woman feels about herself, her life, her partner, and her relationship all factor into whether she feels like having sex. Unlike men, where thinking about sex translates to erection, arousal in some women may start during or even after lovemaking begins. Prior to love making a woman has many thoughts not only about sex but about her relationship. “Are we ready to have sex? Is he committed to me? Will he like my body? Does he think I’m sexy?”

All kind of worry 

In dating situations, women are thinking about the flow of her relationship and her future, too. “What if I get addicted to this man and then he leaves me?” While women are not as concerned with sexual performance, a woman knows that once she becomes sexually involved, things become more serious for her. While the heat of the moment and her eager male partner may convince a woman to have sex, she knows that due to the release of oxytocin during sex she must also protect her heart. For men, sex is a one-part play. For women in dating, there are three acts: pre-sex worry, during-sex worry, and post-sex worry.

Talk about it

For both men and women, talking about can increase libido. If you are a man, tell your woman how sexy you find her. This will help her get out of her head and any insecurities and into the moment. If she sees you aroused and approaching her with confidence, it’s easier for her to feel her desire. For women, try not to overthink what your male partner wants. Think more about yourself and tell your man what feels good to you. Men take pleasure in pleasuring you. Enjoy yourself and your man will too.

5 Tips for Enhancing Sexual Desire:

1. Five Senses: think about how things look, smell, sound, feel, and taste. Light a candle, listen to sexy music, drink some wine.
2. Building anticipation: send your partner a sexy little flirt to build heat in your relationship. Tell them you can’t wait to see them later.
3. Exercise more: people who are aware of their bodies and exercise generally have higher libidos and are more physical in their love language.
4. Stay in the moment: focus on what feels good versus worrying about the past or future.
5. Make your romantic life a priority: people who have an orgasm once a week to have better health and sex release stress.

Summary 

Sexual desire is something that can be enhanced just like your communication can be improved. Learn what you like and listen to what your partner likes too. Having a healthy sex life is an important part of a healthy lifestyle and it can be fun too. Leave a comment on what you have done to enhance your sexual desire and how it worked for you and your partner.